Q: How does a KPS differ from a traditional nanny?
A: A KPS, is selected by Kidtection on the criteria, they must love the idea of working with children, and tweens and teens. They must have our core strengths be responsible, committed, inspiring and fun. At the heart of all they do whilst care givers they are also there to help your children develop the art of thinking for themselves.
Q: Do the KPSs have Nanny Training?
A: Traditional nanny training known as Early Years including Norland Nannies and NNEB, go no further than 5 years old, our candidates – KPSs, have all the skills of the early years plus they can equip your older children as they move into adolesents where we are parents all need a helping hand in the team, with learning day to day life skills, being an important adult, with whom to continue to art of listening and communication, often seen in a home today as a dying art as computers, tablets and phones become the “friend”.
Q. The gender issue – are all the KPSs male?
A. No we have some female KPSs. However a male caregiver is a healthy alternative in many families, especially with teenagers and adolescents.
Q. How do you know a male is safe with a female child?
A. Our KPSs all have DBS checks, further background checks from an independent firm, and often have a SIA Certificate. Many have younger female siblings and some, like our founder, have been carers.
Q. Do they have household experience?
A. What does this mean? Can they cook? Yes. Can they drive? Yes. Can they iron? Yes. Can they hoover? Yes. Can they sew on name tags? Yes. Can they walk a dog? Yes. All our KPSs have life skills – we do not hire anyone under 24 years of age.
Q. Are they experienced swimmers?
A. Yes, all our KPSs can swim
Part of the Plan
- Let the child take the initiative.
- Nurture curiosity.
- Encourage questions.
- Teach decision-making skills.
Thinking for ourselves is one of the hallmarks of success, independence and creativity. Children who don’t learn how to think for themselves can develop into teens and adults who are plagued by boredom, poor social skills, lack of ambition and general unhappiness.
Creative thinking and problem solving are life skills that can be developed, nurtured and improved with practice.
Our KPS tips for Do’s and Don’ts
Look for hands-on projects and activities and let the child take the initiative––don’t jump in and constantly point out mistakes or ways to do it better; let experience and trial-and-error be their guide.
Encourage lots of imaginative and free play––time for wandering outside, exploring a woody path or river bed, collecting nature, cycling, walking, kicking a ball around.
Nurture curiosity. Help a child follow their natural interests. Help him learn to gravitate toward positive activities and areas of interest that he likes and that give him satisfaction and enjoyment.
Ask questions and encourage questions. Ask: “What do you think?” “What would you do in that situation?” Try to avoid simple yes-and-no questions/answers. Go for the “why.”
We help to encourage your child to figure out more than one answer or option to a problem or challenge. Guide them how to brainstorm, to come up with ideas that may not work but that aren’t instantly shut down.
Teach decision-making skills: researching, creating pro/con lists, evaluating choices and anticipating consequences. Then give him the chance to “own” some of his own decisions.
Give your child the opportunity to express herself and her opinions even if they run counter to yours. They may be immature opinions, or not completely well-thought out, but by encouraging exploration you will encourage her to see the strengths and weaknesses in theories and arguments.
Let your child in on what you’re thinking and how you’re thinking about it. Communicate an adult’s own struggles, explorations, the moment when the “light bulb” went on, and how you work out problems.
Hover. Don’t hang over your child’s shoulder at every moment. Give her room for trial and error to learn from her mistakes. Let her create something less than perfect. The lesson is often in the process, not the result.
Fall into the trap of passive entertainment, such as too much TV, too much iPod. If he loves film or music, get him a cheap DVD recorder, sign him up for a class, encourage him to take up an instrument, etc.
Over-structure a day. If your child says, “I’m bored,” don’t automatically provide a list of things-to-do; challenge her to come up with fun ideas. Our KPS is there for games and they are available. Get your child to understand the “why” of any project or activity.
Just say “no.” Frame the situation in questions that help the child figure out why something is a good (or not a good) idea. Example: Your child asks, “Can I go away with William for two weeks this summer?” You know she can’t, but you want her to figure it out for herself. Have her come up with a list of pros and cons so she can begin to see the answer and possible solutions.
How We work with Teenagers.
The challenge for a parent in this phase is whilst they want you to drive them to the shops, they don’t want you to be ‘in their face’. A third adult is ‘neutral’ and not the parent. Our KPSs aim to eradicate the teenage grunt ‘whatever’.
We help your teenager develop critical-thinking skills. There are many good books on the topic, many of which include thought-provoking exercises, questions or tasks.
We are consistent in our approach. Incorporate critical-thinking opportunities naturally into everyday life. Don’t save it all up for a once-a-month critical-thinking lesson.
We aim to assist your child experience the consequences of his actions. He will begin to figure it out for himself.
We encourage the value of calculated risk taking. Trying new things is a form of positive experimentation. If it works out, your child learns the value of taking a chance and learns not to fear change. If it doesn’t work out, she’s learned a lesson as well. Try and you may succeed. Don’t try, and you’ll be stuck in a rut.
We aim to expose your child to adults with a passion and energy for their work or hobbies, those who have already gained some life skills. This is modelling at its best. If you live in a metropolitan area or near a university, it’s not hard to find speakers and workshops. If these aren’t available, many great DVDs and television shows feature people with a passion for their work or hobbies. Ask friends to talk about or demonstrate their hobby or work to your child.